Understanding Non-Violent Resistance (NVR): A guide for parents
Parenting can be incredibly rewarding, but we know it’s not always easy. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, your child or children might act out in ways that feel overwhelming or even leave you questioning your approach. That’s where Non-Violent Resistance (NVR) can come in and help.
What is NVR?
Non-Violent Resistance is a practical therapeutic approach to managing challenging behaviour in children and teens—without shouting, punishment, or confrontation. Instead of responding with anger or strict discipline, it focuses on staying calm, consistent, and supportive.
NVR helps you set clear boundaries while building trust and respect with your child. It’s not just about reducing tricky behaviours; it’s about strengthening your relationship, so you both feel more secure.
Could NVR help your family?
NVR can be especially helpful when traditional discipline doesn’t work or seems to make things worse. It’s designed for situations like:
aggressive outbursts – hitting, shouting, or other aggressive behaviour
defiance – constant power struggles and refusal to follow rules
destructive actions – damaging belongings as a way of expressing frustration
frequent meltdowns – emotional outbursts that are hard to handle
lying – repeated dishonesty that strains trust
manipulative behaviour – using guilt or other tactics to control situations
risky behaviour – unsafe choices like substance use or dangerous activities
school struggles – refusing to attend school or complete work
threats of self-harm or running away – used as a coping or controlling mechanism during conflict
withdrawing – avoiding family or becoming isolated
If any of this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Many parents face similar challenges, and it’s okay to ask for support.
How Kids Inspire can support you
Our NVR groups (please contact us for more information or to self refer/refer for support) are designed to give you tools to handle conflict calmly and constructively. You’ll learn how to create a more peaceful and structured family environment by setting boundaries in a way that feels firm but fair.
Our team will help you to rebuild trust, strengthen your family bond, and bring stability back into your home.
Want to learn more?
Kids Inspire offers NVR groups for parents and caregivers looking to manage challenging behaviours with confidence and compassion.
Interested?
If you're interested in finding out more or signing up for one of our groups, please reach out! NVR could be the first step in creating lasting change and a happier home for everyone.
Kids Inspire is a children’s mental health charity. We provide free specialist trauma support for children and families who would not otherwise be able to afford it.
Please note: Kids Inspire is not a crisis emergency organisation. Outside of 9am-5pm, if you or your child is at immediate risk, please contact the crisis service related to your concern:
NHS111 Mental Health - Dial 111 and select the option for mental health crisis (24 hours a day)
Emotional Wellbeing Mental Health Service Crisis Team – 0300 555 1201
Family Operations Hub – 0345 606 1212 (weekend line)